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I just watched a realtor defend her way straight into bankruptcy.

She’d been in real estate for eight months. Her conversion rate was 0%. Her bank account was hemorrhaging. But when I suggested she start using a database to track her leads, she pushed back hard.

“I work better from my phone,” she insisted. “I don’t like using calendars. I’m more of a fluid person.”

I sat there thinking: Sister, your “fluid” approach just cost you $47,000 in missed opportunities this quarter alone.

Two weeks later, she texted me: “Cheesette, I think I need to find a different coach. This isn’t working for me.”

The same day, I got a voice message from Lauren, one of my Blueprint members: “Girl, we’re only on day four of week one and I’m already seeing results! I targeted expired listings this week based on your guidance, and I’m getting appointments. I was being coachable, and now I’m starting to see what’s possible.”

Same market. Same opportunities. Same proven systems.

One agent protected her comfort zone and stayed broke. The other embraced being teachable and started booking appointments within 96 hours.

The difference wasn’t talent, experience, or market conditions. It was one fundamental mindset shift that separates agents who build wealth from agents who build excuses.

Most agents fail not because they’re lazy. They fail because they’re not coachable. You can’t out-hustle what you refuse to learn.

The Three Invisible Barriers That Keep You Broke (Even When You’re Working 60+ Hours)

After coaching over 200 agents and watching some skyrocket while others stay stuck, I’ve identified the three psychological blocks that prevent agents from receiving the very information that could transform their business. These barriers are so subtle, most agents don’t even realize they’re operating from them.

Barrier #1: The “I Already Know” Trap

This shows up when agents think watching YouTube videos equals understanding real estate. They’ve shadowed someone once, closed a deal or two, and suddenly they believe they comprehend a multimillion-dollar industry.

I had a client tell me databases don’t work because she prefers everything on her phone. She’d been in real estate for two weeks. I’ve been building systems for 11 years as an $80 million producer. But somehow, her two weeks of experience trumped my decade of proven results.

When you think you already know it all, it’s like walking into surgery with a YouTube certification. You might feel confident, but the results speak differently. Producers are the ones you should be listening to. People who aren’t producing always have the loudest opinions.

The agents who scale understand this: They don’t need to know everything. They just need to know what they don’t know and where to find the answers. Success leaves clues, and there are proven systems that work because people have already failed to the 10th power and figured out what actually generates income.

Barrier #2: The Pride That Costs You Six Figures

Pride says, “I got it.” Wisdom says, “Show me how to do it better.”

I see agents trying to look successful before they learn how to be successful. They want to seem like they have it together instead of admitting they’re works in progress. Humility is currency in this business. The faster you can say “I don’t know,” the faster someone who does know can come help you.

Last month, I had a strategy session with an agent who was overwhelmed by lead generation. She’d been spending four hours daily on activities that generated zero appointments. In 90 minutes, I showed her my proven systems. She went from 0 appointments per week to 4 appointments per week, with a 67% conversion rate.

The magic happened because she trusted the process even when her ego didn’t like how it looked. Being coachable means trusting systems that work, even when they feel uncomfortable at first.

Pride stops progress. When you resist feedback, you delay freedom. Feedback isn’t rejection—it’s redirection. If you’re going the wrong way and I give you course correction, you didn’t fail. You were en route. I’m just redirecting you so you can reach your destination.

Barrier #3: The Fear That Masquerades as Perfectionism

Fear shows up as the need to have everything perfect before you start making money. Fear of being told you’re doing it wrong. Fear of failing again. But fear and faith can’t occupy the same space.

I watch agents organize everything except their courage. They’ll spend 40 hours creating the perfect CRM setup but won’t spend 40 minutes calling expired listings because organizing feels safer than potential rejection.

You research endlessly because learning feels like progress. Your subconscious knows that as long as you’re “still learning,” you don’t have to face the vulnerability of actually trying to make money. So you attend every webinar, download every free resource, and collect strategies while your bank account stays empty.

Money is made in motion, not preparation. Every successful agent I know values progress over perfection. They understand that imperfect action beats perfect inaction every single time.

The Coachability Test That Separates Winners from Strugglers

Before I work with any agent, I run them through what I call the Coachability Assessment. It’s not about their experience level or natural talent. It’s about their willingness to receive information that could change their trajectory.

The Three-Question Framework:

Question 1: When someone more successful than you suggests a different approach, what’s your first reaction?

Coachable agents think: “Let me understand why this works for them.”

Uncoachable agents think: “That won’t work for me because…”

Question 2: How do you respond when someone points out a gap in your knowledge?

Coachable agents say: “Show me what I’m missing.”

Uncoachable agents say: “I already tried that” or “That doesn’t apply to my market.”

Question 3: What’s your relationship with being wrong?

Coachable agents see being corrected as course adjustment toward success.

Uncoachable agents see feedback as personal criticism they need to defend against.

The Real-World Application:

My client Keyla started her real estate career during the last wave of the hot market. Her first few transactions happened organically. But when the market shifted, nothing was working. She was desperate and crying during our coaching calls.

Instead of defending what wasn’t working, she asked: “What do I need to do differently?”

I helped her lay out a plan. I taught her accountability systems. I showed her how to push through when times got hard. She didn’t resist the process—she embraced it.

Result? Keyla sold 10 houses in her first year in a shifting market. She went from desperate to thriving because she was coachable enough to implement what I taught her, even when it felt uncomfortable.

The Producer’s Hierarchy: Who to Listen to (And Who’s Secretly Sabotaging Your Success)

Not all advice is created equal. In real estate, the source of your information determines your income level. Agents who listen to the wrong people stay broke, no matter how hard they work.

Level 1: The Loud Opinions (Avoid These People)

These are agents who’ve never closed a transaction but have strong opinions about what works. They’re on your team, in your office, or in Facebook groups sharing theories about lead generation they’ve never actually tested.

I had someone on my team listening to another team member who had never closed a real estate deal. I’m telling her what to do as an $80 million producer, and she’s following advice from someone with zero transactions. Then we wonder why agents get led astray.

Level 2: The Occasional Producers (Proceed with Caution)

These agents close deals sporadically but haven’t built systematic processes. They can share what worked once or twice, but they can’t teach you how to replicate results consistently. Their advice comes from luck, not strategy.

Level 3: The Systematic Producers (This Is Your Gold Mine)

These are agents who’ve built businesses that work whether they’re present or not. They’ve created systems, tested processes, and can show you the documented results of their methods. When they speak, you listen.

Gary Keller built an entire empire on systems that work. So why are we trying to freestyle what’s already been proven? Because we’re listening to the wrong level of people.

The Selection Criteria:

Before taking advice from anyone, ask:

– What are their actual production numbers?

– Can they show you their systems, not just their results?

– Do their methods align with the business model you want to build?

For example, I have a friend who runs a business totally based on cold calling. Both of us are successful, but our methods don’t align. I don’t want my business dependent on me picking up the phone daily. So when I’m looking for mentorship, I seek coaches who’ve built marketing-enhanced businesses that generate leads while I sleep.

You cannot listen to everybody, even if they’re both successful. You have to decide whose business model aligns with who you want to become.

The Apprenticeship Advantage: Why Following Proven Systems Beats Freestyle Every Time

The agents who stay in this business long-term don’t try to reinvent the wheel. They follow proven systems, master the basics, then make them their own. This is biblical wisdom—learning from those who’ve gone before you.

The Compound Effect of Following Systems:

When you implement proven systems instead of creating your own:

Month 1: You start seeing results because you’re following processes that work

Month 3: Your systems are working predictably, generating consistent income

Month 6: You’re scaling successful systems instead of searching for new strategies

Year 2: You’re teaching others what you’ve mastered

Compare this to the freestyle approach:

Month 1: You try several different approaches with mixed results

Month 3: You switch strategies when they don’t work immediately

Month 6: You believe lead generation is “too hard” for your market

Year 2: You’re still searching for the “secret” that successful agents already know

My Personal Apprenticeship Story:

When I came into this industry, I was humble because I wanted it to work badly. If someone was teaching me something, I was taking notes. I was running everything through my spiritual compass, checking with the Holy Spirit about whether it applied to me.

I wanted to win, and I knew I couldn’t win by pretending I already had all the answers.

That humility led me to invest $6,000 per month in coaching one year. You know what? That was the year I made my first million. Million minus $72,000 in coaching costs? Yeah, I’ll take that return on investment every time.

The Biblical Foundation of Coachability:

Romans 12:2 tells us not to be conformed to this world’s customs but to renew our minds. Renewing your mind means taking what you think is true, examining whether it really is truth, and replacing incorrect beliefs with accurate information.

Take what you thought you knew about lead generation. Take what you thought you knew about running a business. Listen to new information from people who’ve produced results. Decide which approach is actually true based on outcomes, not comfort level.

The Transformation Timeline: What Happens When You Become Coachable

When agents shift from defending their methods to improving their results, their business transforms predictably. Based on coaching over 200 agents, this is the typical timeline:

Week 1-2: The Resistance Break

You’ll feel uncomfortable implementing new systems because they challenge your existing habits. Your pride will activate every time you start an activity without complete preparation. This is normal. Push through it.

Week 3-4: The Momentum Build

You start seeing small wins from following proven processes. These early victories build confidence in the systems you’re implementing. You begin trusting the process more than your comfort zone.

Month 2-3: The Results Compound

Your consistent implementation of systematic approaches generates predictable outcomes. You’re not hoping for business—you’re creating it through repeatable processes.

Month 6-12: The Expertise Development

You’ve mastered the basics and can now innovate within proven frameworks. You’re helping other agents because you understand what works and why it works.

Year 2+: The Legacy Impact

You’re teaching others the systems that transformed your business. Your success becomes reproducible because it’s built on principles, not personality.

The Investment Mindset That Separates Pros from Pretenders

Real estate is a business, not a side hustle. When you understand this, you invest in business education the same way doctors invest in medical education. You don’t try to figure out surgery from YouTube videos.

The ROI of Coachability:

Lauren invested in my Blueprint program and started seeing results in four days. That’s not because I’m magical—it’s because she was coachable enough to implement what I taught her immediately instead of debating whether it would work.

Keyla was ready to quit real estate until she embraced coaching. Now she has a thriving business that funds her lifestyle while honoring her faith. The difference wasn’t market conditions—it was her willingness to learn.

The Cost of Staying Uncoachable:

Every month you resist proven systems is a month you delay financial freedom. Every time you defend methods that aren’t working, you’re choosing comfort over growth. Every conversation where you explain why something won’t work for you is a conversation that could have been spent implementing what does work.

The agents who transform their income aren’t the ones with the most natural talent. They’re the ones who stop protecting their ego and start prioritizing their results.

Your Coachability Breakthrough Plan

Stop researching and start implementing. If you’re ready to become the kind of agent who receives wisdom instead of rejecting it, this is your roadmap:

Week 1: The Honest Assessment

Identify one area where you’ve been resistant to change. Write down specifically what you’ve been defending and why. Ask yourself: “Is my current approach generating the results I want?”

Week 2: The Mentor Search

Find one producer who’s achieving what you want to achieve. Study their methods. Ask them questions. Invest in learning from their experience instead of recreating their mistakes.

Week 3: The Implementation Test

Choose one system they recommend and implement it exactly as taught for 30 days. Don’t modify it. Don’t improve it. Just follow it precisely and measure the results.

Week 4: The Results Review

Compare your outcomes from following proven systems versus your previous freestyle approach. Let the results speak to whether coachability serves your business better than self-reliance.

The agents who transform their businesses understand that their growth is limited by their willingness to receive new information. Your business grows to the extent that you do. The reason many businesses aren’t growing is because the owners aren’t growing.

Success isn’t about having all the answers. Success is about knowing what you don’t know and where to find the wisdom that fills those gaps. The agents who master this mindset don’t just build businesses—they build legacies.

God has called you to a strong business, a six-figure business, maybe even a seven or eight-figure business. But that calling requires you to be the kind of person who receives instruction, implements wisdom, and trusts the process even when your pride doesn’t like how it feels.

I’m honored to walk with agents on this journey from struggling to thriving, from defending limitations to embracing possibilities. The wisdom exists. The systems work. The only question is: Are you ready to become coachable enough to receive what could change everything?

If you’re tired of defending methods that aren’t working and you’re ready to implement systems that are, I’d love to show you exactly how my most successful agents made this transition. Because the distance between where you are and where you want to be isn’t measured in time—it’s measured in teachability.

Stop Winging It. Start Building Like the CEO You’re Called to Be.

Over the past 11 years, I’ve watched too many agents try to figure out business structure on their own. They piece together advice from YouTube. They copy what they see other agents doing. They pray that determination alone will favor them.

But success favors the prepared.

The agents who win understand that real estate is a business, not a side hustle. They invest in learning how to build that business the right way from day one. They follow proven systems instead of trying to freestyle their way to six figures.

If you’ve made it this far in this article, you’re already showing signs of coachability. You’re seeking wisdom instead of defending your current approach. You’re ready to receive instruction that could change your trajectory.

That’s exactly why I created How to Start and Structure Your Real Estate Business Masterclass.

This isn’t another course teaching you how to fill out contracts or showing you around the MLS. This is business foundation training. The stuff they don’t teach you in real estate school. The systems that separate agents who make money from agents who just have licenses.

You’ll get a complete playbook to launch and run your business like a CEO. Clear how-tos. Step-by-step next actions. The exact templates, checklists, and scorecards to execute without guessing.

I’m talking practical systems for your LLC setup. Numbers that matter. Lead generation that works. Leverage strategies that scale. Plus the mindset shifts that keep you consistent for 90 days and beyond.

It’s equal parts instruction, implementation, and inspiration. You don’t just learn it—you ship it.

Because learning without doing doesn’t count. You need to block CEO hours on your calendar weekly to watch, implement, and update your scorecard. Pick one lead-gen lane and run it for 90 days before you judge it. Use the templates as-is first, then tweak. Don’t reinvent the wheel mid-ride.

Track your inputs daily. Review outcomes every Friday. Ask questions. Post wins. Bring real scenarios to each module. Coaching hits harder with live reps.

Most importantly, protect the asset—that’s you. Sleep, boundaries, and batch content so you can stay consistent without burning out.

This training exists because I believe God has called you to build more than just a real estate job. You’re meant to create a business that funds your lifestyle and fuels your mission. An empire that reflects your values while generating serious wealth.

But that empire requires foundation. It requires systems. It requires the kind of business education that transforms agents from order-takers into CEOs.

The agents who invest in this training don’t spend years figuring it out the hard way. They build right from the beginning. They avoid the expensive mistakes that cost most agents their first two years in business.

If you’re ready to stop winging it and start building like the CEO you’re called to be, this is your next step. Because coachable agents don’t just learn—they implement. And implementation is what transforms lives.

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